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Perinatal Counselling

Everyone wants to hold the baby, who holds the mother?

Being a parent comes with many challenges and thankfully more awareness is now being shown to this and the struggles that some parents have in the immediate postpartum period. However, I believe that there is still a stigma to finding it hard and asking for help and it is a subject I am extremely passionate about. I offer a space in which YOU matter, your feelings, thoughts and beliefs – it’s all too easy for a parent’s own identity and values to become swallowed by the umbrella identity of “parent” and let’s face it – it can be a judgemental world out there!

Pre-natal support

Although asking for help in the post-partum period is becoming more normalized and understood unfortunately, I don’t think this has reached the pre partum stage yet. Pregnancy is a huge change for your body, mind, life, family dynamics and too often the person carrying the child is treated almost like a vessel where the baby’s needs are paramount and the pregnant person’s feelings are pushed aside. Whether you are happy, scared, nervous, sad, angry, unsure whether you wish to continue with the pregnancy or whatever else you are feeling about your pregnancy and what is to follow I offer a space to explore what’s going on for you, where you will not be judged – I want to hear you.

Post-natal support

Someone once described having a baby like a bomb going off in your life and whether it be your first baby or you are adding to your family, undoubtedly bringing a new, vulnerable human who needs round-the-clock care into your life is going to bring about changes – some wonderful and some really, really challenging. Whether it be sleep deprivation, self-doubt, loss of identity, loneliness, navigating a change in the dynamics of your family, or relationship strains. I offer a place in which all of these and more can be discussed and explored for how they impact you.

Parenting

It is wonderful that there is growing support for parents of newborns and younger children (although I would take a moment to ponder before you believe everything in the “parenting books”) however people of older children can often find themselves left out of the greater support scheme. Maybe your child is not transitioning to school as happily as you had hoped, maybe they still need you to sleep by their side for hours every evening and you are desperate for some time alone. Perhaps your children bickering amongst themselves is driving you to distraction or you are really struggling with parenting a teen or adapting to a child moving away. Parenting doesn’t stop when the books that offer help seem to think they do* and too often parents are left to navigate the rest by themselves. I would like to offer a listening ear and a safe space for you to start to look inward and see the impacts that doing the extremely hard job of raising a family because you are important and your needs matter.

Normalising maternal rage

“It was either blasting the anger out or turning the anger in, and she wasn’t willing to keep it there any longer. She would not shred herself up inside, would not churn her guts to acid, would not grind her teeth in her sleep or cause her neck to go out for the sake of being civil and mature and understanding and level headed” Night Bitch – Rachel Yoder

A thundercloud moment in which the maternal drive to nurture and protect your child collides with the carnal drive to fight or flee stress– Anna Mathur. Author of Raising a Happier Mother.

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